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Grief and Loss

     You suffered the loss of a loved one. The initial shock has worn off, and you're left feeling angry, sad, guilty and scared. You suffer secondary losses, such as financial, relocation, or expectations for your future.You bargain with a higher being, whether you believe in one or not. You have thoughts such as "If I had done something differently, my loved one would still be alive or I would've gotten more time." Or "Why couldn't it have been me who died?" You may be hiding away in isolation, oscillating between crying and numbing. Or perhaps you throw yourself into work and other distractions, but your grief overcomes you in quiet or inopportune moments.  There is a hole in your heart. You believe no one understands. Everyone seems to be moving on with life, while you're stuck in mourning. 

   While you might feel completely alone, grief and loss are actually universal experiences that every human goes through at some point in their life. Unfortunately, there is a stigma around grief and loss in our society that can send the wrong message about how to grieve and heal from a loss. Some myths around grief include, "time heals all wounds," "just forget about it and move on," and "be strong, don't cry. " Luckily, there are treatments to help you process and release the intense emotions that surround loss, reconnect with your loved one, and rediscover meaning in your life moving forward. Yes, your life is forever changed with this loss, but when you do the difficult work of healing, you can grow from this loss and create a new and fulfilling life that your loved one would be proud of. 

I draw from CBT, mindfulness, self-compassion, and meaning-centered approaches to help you do the difficult work of grieving. Through mindfulness and self-compassion I will help you "feel it to heal it" in a kind and tender way so you can process and release grief. You will learn how to reconnect with your loved one on a spiritual level. These tools will also help you learn to embrace and savor your life versus living in the past with grief. I then use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy approaches to help you to identify what's important to you and take steps to reengage with your life. Over time, you'll learn to build a fulfilling life that carries on the legacy of your loved one. 

For those wanting to connect with others as they work through your grief, join my Grief Support Group.

For those wanting an accelerated approach to grief processing, learn about my BE A MESS Mourning Method.

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